Who Needs Bridesmaids Anyway? – Denise Li
In my entire 29 years of existence, I’ve never been invited to be someone’s bridesmaid. I can’t say, in all honesty, that this makes me sad. Just the thought of having to settle the logistics of invitation cards, flowers, the fetching of the bride, drinking on the bride’s behalf makes my eyes glaze over. Okay, I lie. I really wouldn’t mind the bit where I’m being made to “reluctantly” drink a few glasses of Champagne, but debating on the finer points of “baby blue vs baby pink” is really not how I fancy spending any afternoon of my life at all. (If you’ve read Cosmopolitan Bride, that comes free with our June 2012 issue, you’ll know what I’m referring to here)
And bridesmaid’s dresses. Don’t even get me started on them. I don’t know why so many brides, who normally have perfectly good taste when it comes to day-to-day fashion, see fit to order their bridesmaids to wear lilac/pale yellow on their big day. I mean, even Kate Middleton herself would be hard-pressed to pull those awful shades off.
Okay, I know what you’re probably thinking. “Who cares what the bridesmaid thinks, anyway? The big day is ALL about the bride!” or “She’s so selfish, no wonder her friends haven’t asked her to be a bridesmaid!”
Actually, I started thinking about all of this because the last thing I want is to morph into Bridezilla when it comes to be the planning of my own nuptials. Sure, it may be MY big day (and that of my husband-to-be’s), but the last thing I want is to take advantage of it. I don’t want to see my bridesmaids squeezed into dresses they hate or shoes that’ll kill them. I don’t want to be THAT bride bursting into tears because they got the size of the doilies wrong. I don’t want my closest friends and female relatives to have to be stressing out about details on the run-up to my wedding day.
That’s why I’ve decided that I really don’t need bridesmaids at all. I don’t think I need any, I think, since all I’m thinking of doing is having an afternoon reception with less than 100 people. I don’t want the whole elaborate, cliched set-up of having my husband-to-be tortured with wasabi-and-ketchup crackers before he comes to get me. And I really only need one dress for the wedding; a short one, so no one will have to accompany me to the bathroom to help hitch up all those layers.
I’d rather my close female friends come for my wedding day totally relaxed and prepared to party. I’m usually not a fussy person – so why should my wedding be? At the end of the day, I really don’t want to put any of my friendships on the line … and I’d be doing everyone a favour if I choose not to have bridesmaids at all, don’t you think?